This is Trypheyna’s journal where she will share information that she has found personally valuable in order to support you in facing and dealing with End of Life.
If you have any questions you would like answered in relation the Creative World of End of Life Planning, Legacy, and Celebrations at the End of Life please ask me, Trypheyna. I may not know the answer, but am fascinated enough to find ways to make the end of life experience as loving and creative as possible that if I can in any way help to find answers to your questions I would love to do so.
The truth is that everyone of us is as unique as our fingerprints and so therefore we inevitably think differently to each other. So there may be things I share that will not resonate for you. Please just take what is of value for you and discard the rest. That way you will be honouring yourself as the unique and wonderful being that you are.
I would also like to share with you links to creative and valuable information that I have discovered to be personally valuable to help you on your journey
LET PEOPLE KNOW YOU VALUE THEM
Let’s start with a really simple way for you to make a difference in your world.
One of the simplest and most important things we can do in life is acknowledge and say thank you to people.
Sadly the wonderful old art of letter writing has almost vanished from our world. And yet if we are truly honest with ourselves I think we would all say it feels really wonderful to get a personalised letter or card in the mail. Well you can actually do this very easily.
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” American poet, Maya Angelou
I have discovered an exquisite, simple, time effective and very cheap way to reach out to people and let them know they matter to you, and to thank them.
If you would like to find out how this works and also send a real card, for free, on me, which will be delivered in the mail to someone you care about, please go here to Trypheyna’s Send Out Cards and check it out. My wish for you is to chose to follow your promptings and let people know how they matter to you at the time that you think about doing so, in order not to have any regrets down the track. Regrets are something you don’t want to burden your soul with.
PHOTOGRAPHING A FUNERAL
Just recently I was able to support the children of a close friend of ours, who we were blessed to be able to support to come home to die, by organising for a wonderful woman to come and photograph her funeral. The last thing that people want to be thinking of when they are in the middle of a funeral is to take photographs. And yet later on having photos of a funeral can be a real blessing. – Why Photographing a Funeral is important
If you want to find someone who is compassionate and cares deeply about end of life support then I suggest that you mke contact with Gypsy Artemis whose end of life and after death/funeral photography is very beautiful. You can reach her at Sacred Hunger Remember to tell Gypsy that Trypheyna sent you and she may be able to work out a good price for you.
END OF LIFE FASHION
One of the most wonderful things I was able to help our friend and her children organise was to meet up with Helen Dunne my Shroud Momento friend to create her End of Life Gown . My friend didn’t want it to be called a shroud, as it really was the most exquisite gown, made from material she had collected through out her life. It was a magic way for a woman of great style to leave. It was truly her own fashion, designed by her and her children with insert pockets in it for people to place letters and gifts into as they felt inclined to do. And why shouldn’t your style and fashion be with you right up until the end of your life? Article on Helen’s Shrouds
Hi Helen, Mum absolutely loves it (funeral gown) She put it straight on and hasn’t taken it off!! And she put all her jewellery on then just slept peacefully all afternoon. Tasman’s neckpeice fits perfectly. We are thrilled, it is so beautiful and perfect. Thank you so much.”
LEAVING A LEGACY
One of the things I have learnt on my journey is that we will all leave a Legacy, whether we chose to or not. So I beleive it is much better for us to decide on what the Legacy is that we would like to leave and make sure to create that, rather than to have someone else tell your story.
I love telling my Death and Dying students the wonderful story of Noel, and his Legacy. This homeless man, when he died, hit the front page of the local paper, the Manly Daily. Noel had been homless for something like 25 years and had no possessions, other than a heart of gold, Yet when he died over 100 people attended his funeral, and the State Treasurer, who has since gone on to become the NSW State Premier, Mike Baird sent a message saying he would have been there but he had to deliver the budget that day. This man left a wonderful Legacy and yet he owned nothing. No matter what everyone of us will leave a Legacy.
If you feel that you need to change the way things are in your life and would like to get yourself on a track that honours the truth of yout unique self you might want to consider having fun setting your new path to your Legacy. Tired of waiting to live? Be the hero of your life story!
Recreate Your Life Story – A fun, creative course blending self-help and film that gives you the tools to let go of the past so you can feel free, happy, and unlimited in the present—and confident about creating the future.
THE POWER OF STORYTELLING
Having been brought up in West Africa as a child, spent 3 years at boarding school in Scandinavia, in Denmark, and having spent a lot of special time with Aboriginal communities since I came to Australia I have a deep understanding of the power of storytelling to make sense for us of our world. In fact one of the books I loved passionately when doing my Master of Applied Science – Social Ecology was Rachel Naomi Remen’s book Kitchen Table Wisdom about the power of storytelling to transfer wisdom between generations so often told at the kitchen table. The Art of Story Telling is something we must never, and I feel certain we won’t, loose – even in the face of such vast technological changes.
I was blessed on Saturday to be in the company of a wonderful story teller Megan Pascoe when I went to a Dying to Know Day event. She told 3 brilliant stories from around the world all very different but with death as the central theme. She was captivating and I intend to get a video of her telling one of these stories which illustrates so beautifully the importance of Legacy. Check her out
SIMULATING DEATH – THE CREATION OF A 4D GAME?
Is this fact or fiction? Actually it is quite true – Samadhi – A 4D Experience of Death simulator is due to open in China in September 2014
“The pair were initially unsure of the appetite for their morbid concept, even though similar ventures have already opened in South Korea and Taiwan Voluntary work in a hospice showed them that few people wanted to confront the idea of death, even when it was at hand. “The saddest part of the job wasn’t seeing the patients passing away but how the families refused to face death — the final days with their loved ones consisted of kind but shallow lies,” says Ding. “We lack understanding of death and the fear can become so overwhelming. “To sound out the idea, Huang and Ding first started a fundraising campaign on jue.so, the Chinese version of Kickstarter. “We received more than RMB 410,000 ($67,000) in three months, surpassing our target,” says Huang. “It turns out many people in China are curious about death.” Ding says they hope the experience will promote “life education” — prompting people to ask questions about what they are doing with their lives and guiding them to face death in a personal way.”